Friday, October 24, 2008

Will You still Love Me When I am 60?

by: Karen


I woke up this morning feeling achy and blue,
Saw wrinkles in my head and my eyes were blurry too,
The usual long black hair became short white thinning hair,
The usual big, gleeful voice became a hoarsely whisper in the air.

I'm afraid my dear I cannot go long walks with you anymore,
For my feet and legs are trembling and is starting to sore,
Today, I believe someone else would be cooking for your fave dish,
Because the recipe is no longer vivid in my memory.

I'm already 60 you see... old, haggard and weak,
Would you still please carry me in your arms and tuck me to sleep?
Would you still reach out for my hand and kiss me so sweet?
Would you still share your stories with me whether or not I hear it?
Would you still stay with me however difficult it may be?

I still remember when we were young and free,
When we were so in-love ans so sincere,
I remember the petty fights and endless quarrels,
Those sweet touches and those starry marvels.
I remember every gifts, every wish, every laughter we shared.

The vow we took and all the times we loved and cared,
I remember you, my love, my sweety, my life
I remember how you never fail to melt this heart of mine
I want you to know, that I will always love you
Whatever may happen, all of me is for you.
Time have changed, things have changed
But I hope your love for me still remains
So will you still love me when I am 60?
Do you still love me now despite all thing gone teary?



*** This is a poem dedicated to my one and only love, Sweety for our 46th Monthsary. I hope that when we turn 60, this letter will still be there and answers will be given. --Bhy


Sunday, October 19, 2008

Our Look-Alike: Kanino Nagmana?

by: Bryan

Last year, I came across this website that measures up who will be your celebrity look-alike. The website is http://www.myheritage.com. Then, lately, I found out that it has a new feature which now measures who from your parents do you look-alike. Karen and I uploaded our pictures and our parents' to test whose DNA is stronger. Here is the result:

Bryan


Karen




Thursday, October 9, 2008

The DIY Misalette

by: Bryan

Last March, we requested from NSSH a copy of our nuptial mass or misalette. NSSH sent us a soft copy of the template. Ate Tess, our contact with NSSH, informed us to atleast provide four copies to be distributed during the ceremony. The important thing is that the priest should have one.

At first, we didn't think of a DIY style of misalette, a simple print out would do, until Bhy saw a sample of a DIY misalette from a couple at http://www.weddingannouncer.com/. Well, we will not copy the idea though; We were thinking of a design that is simple and not costly. So I opened the laptop and created a design in MS Publisher, and for the final design:

A simple, 10-paged booklet style printed black and white in A4 bond paper. Here is the front page:


I printed a couple of samples to get the correct paper feed from our printer to print on both sides of the paper. After getting the correct sequence, I printed several copies.

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Pre-Cana Seminar Experience @ CEFAM

by: Karen

CEFAM - Center for Family Ministries
(Address: Seminary Drive, Ateneo de Manila University, Loyola Heights, Quezon City)

We attended the CEFAM last September 20 and 21, 2008. At first, it was just to fulfill our Church requirement but eventually, became a very good and marveling experience for both of us.

September 20, 2008 7:30AM
Still sleepy and haggard, we arrived early (via taxi) in the CEFAM seminar place. As we waited for the seminar to start (8:00am), we were given handouts that would be our guide for the entire seminar as well as our name tags. The seminar room was very cold (so those planning to attend please bring your sweaters, jackets with you!. I won't bore you with the details and also to provide the element of surprise to those who are planning to attend. But basically, the first day was mostly knowing the basics of the relationship and each one's readines/compatibility. The MEI (Marriage Expectation Inventory) was the real deal for the day. Believe me there is such a thing as knowing that you are not ready for the marriage or even for the relationship! I love the one-on-one session with our coordinator Amy Muga; it opened alot about us, our differences and our relationship. The seminar ended at 5:00pm with a homework to check on family history. And yes, we are still a perfect match!

September 21, 2008 8:00AM
The seminar started at 8:30am. For me, this day was the highlight of the entire seminar since it tackled deeply on the roots of the relationship (family history, love language, family planning, etc) and it basically discussed the husband-wife roles. It was funny at times, since some of the girls in the seminar would comment out that the husband should "make patay the ipis" and that chores is "what yaya is for". Oh well, different strokes for different folks indeed! The sharing provided by older couples was really touching and at the same time was an eye-opener on what to expect after years of married life. A mass was celebrated and the seminar ended at 5:00pm and we all received 2 certificates (Completion of Pre-Cana Seminar and Family Planning). My Sweety and I left the seminar feeling so in love again and refreshed. We were so happy to know that coupled with the right tools we are really ready for marriage. I would recommend CEFAM to anyone, if you thought that you already knew what they will say and that its corny.. then think again! It's a totally different experience and a definite must have prior to Marriage.

Ratings
(1 as lowest - 5 as highest)

Seminar Place - 4
Although the seminar place was a bit hard to find, it was very peaceful, solemn and clean. The room was very cold though (but its better than very hot right?).

Seminar Food - 5
Seminar Food was surprisingly great! Lunch, a.m. and p.m. snacks were provided. They served an ample amount of food (buffet style) and I cannot complain about the food as it was delicious!

Contents - 4.5
The contents of the seminar was very thorough and it hit the right spot for couples like us. The only thing I wished was that they should slightly touch on the home economics part. Let's face it, most of the marital problems also comes from household stuff like the wife doesn't know how to cook, husband cannot provide for the family, etc. which I believe should be talked about especially for the couple so they would know how to gauge their capability not only as couples but "parents" and set expectations early. Mahirap yun iniaasa na lang sa kasambahay ang pag-aasikaso ng pamilya. Mas maganda ang bunga kung ang couple mismo, may hands-on experiences sa pamilya at sa mga anak. Normally, nagiging materialistic ng isang pamilya kung hindi prepared sa ganito.

All in all, I would higly recommend that couples do take the pre-cana seminar; it worked for us and gave us a better outlook as well as understood more each other. It will open the venue for positive communication and tools for marriage. The seminar may be a bit pricey (Php4,000 per couple) but the experience I can say is priceless.

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